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[quote=Anonymous]I also think that being incredibly strict with our children, such as completely forbidding sweets or outlawing screen time, is a way to enforce control when we feel insecure or helpless.
It's a way of imposing order, often fueled by anxiety.

The flexible approach is to learn how to modulate, and to teach our kids discipline: Maybe one sweet a day, or a small portion of chips, not the whole bag. That kind of self-regulation will serve a child in far better than stead than simply forbidding all "vices," because someday, that child will enter a world that cannot be controlled by the parent and will need to learn to adjust. Better to learn young than as a teen.

Moreover, parents who have to impose their philosophies on others need to self-examine. Why is it so important to assert their own views? Why do they feel this impulse and need? Surely they know they can only manage their own family, not someone else's.

Most of all, kids need love, food, support, guidance, stability. Your child's well-being is not going to crumble due to an occasional fast-food run, but it very well might if they see an overly controlling or judgmental parent lashing out at others.[/quote]

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