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[quote=Anonymous]
Well, I got to this thread a bit late, but a few random observations.

There are asymmetries in dating.  Women tend to want a guy their height or taller, men tend to prefer the opposite.  Does this actually -matter- in a relationship, no, but on average this is what people want and consequently tall women and short men find they are operating from a smaller pool of dating candidates.

Men (on average) value physical attractiveness, which correlates strongly with youth, far more highly than women.  Women care about a man's income/success/status far more than men.  Similarly, men are open to dating their age or potentially significantly younger while women tend toward the reverse.

Imagine two 25 year olds, one man, one woman, both making $50k at a non-profit, both physically attractive.  The woman could choose to date her male equivalent, but can also easily choose to date a huge range of higher earning more "successful" guys her age and much older.

OP's male equivalent (a fairly attractive upper-30s+ guy earning 250k+) would be perfectly happy dating a 25 year old marine biologist making $50k at some save the whales non-profit and wouldn't give a moment's thought to paying her way on a vacation somewhere or taking her out to dinner, or whatever.

Guys in their 20s are relatively rarely successful and/or high earners.  As you start talking about guys in their 40s and up you start seeing significantly more guys that could be described as such.

Meanwhile women in their 20s that are quite attractive are relatively common, but women that could be fairly called attractive in their 40s or 50s are few.  (I am not talking about a "pretty" face here, I mean looking good in a two-piece bathing suit without anything wrapped around your waist.)

OP says she is attractive, but even if we assume that is true, she has limited her search to attractive high earning guys who want to date a divorced mom in her 30s.  So... good luck with that.[/quote]

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