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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a SAHM who doesn’t know any other SAHMs, ask me anything. [/quote]
Also in a SAHM vacuum in NW. Not a millionaire so wouldn't meet/fit in with any of those ladies who lunch. I stepped out to have a better quality of life both in terms of less stress and freedom to work on the projects I want and not have to be a keyboard jockey. [/quote]

You are me only I live in NE. I do some freelance work but mostly I take care of my DD and take care of our house. We should hang out!

I feel like my SAHM work has tremendous value. For starters, it's saving us tens of thousands of dollars in childcare and what I offer is MUCH higher quality than anything we found when we were looking for childcare back when I was pregnant. I also believe that the time I spend with my daughter has real value to her, specifically. That doesn't mean a well-qualified nanny couldn't do it, just that I know *for sure* that my DD is getting value from the time we spend together. I take her hiking and for neighborhood walks and we talk about the world and nature and science and philosophy (I mean, at a PK level, we're not doing chemistry). We also go to museums and I've been teaching her to play the guitar (well, a ukulele, but it's a start). Oh and I've been teaching her yoga and ballet, too (I used to teach both). I also just love her -- I love hearing what she has to say and learning what interests her and what she finds amusing. My husband does this too when he is with her, but it's built on a groundwork of what I do with her during the week. I've set a standard and tone for our joint parenting and he can build off of that when he is with her.

I think it would be really hard to find a nanny who takes the job as seriously as I do and works as hard at it. Not impossible, but hard. Luckily, I love doing it so we didn't have to go looking for such a person only to find out that we could never in a million years afford her.

I know my worth.[/quote]

I'd love to interview your daughter and the daughter of another well-off family living in NE who had a loving and wonderful nanny and engaged parents who happened to work when both girls are 25 and see what the difference ended up being.

Of course your daughter is getting value from the time you spend together. What you can't say is whether she's getting more value than another child with similarly situated parents. Of course you will tell yourself that's true, but you can't prove it.[/quote]

You are saying that time spent with a person paid to be with you is equivalent to time spent with a parent. It’s not the same. Never will be. Of course not of zero value but not the same at all. [/quote]

You have zero proof of that. None whatsoever. [/quote]

Do you need me to explain to you the difference between a familial relationship and that of an employee? Are you a human? Just because something cannot be measured in a quantifiable way doesn’t mean it is meaningless. Love makes the world go round but it cannot be measured. [/quote]

Oh my goodness. You're honestly too dumb to continue talking to. Enjoy your life.[/quote]

Weird flex but ok. [/quote]

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