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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not divorced but is this is a normal amount? Or does this mean that the ex wife makes a lot less? Is Child support even owed if you and your Dh make similar income? [/quote]

sounds like there are big expenses like childcare or tuition. [/quote]

See this is what I don't understand.  You know you are getting involved with a divorced man with children, and you expect it to cost him nothing? And you expect to try to control what the ex wife does?  It doesn't work like that. And yes, he will be on the hook for tuition.  So while you see a paycheck you are marrying - you are conveniently choosing not to see the family that will always be his.  Just because a man gets remarried doesn't mean he no longer has that family.  He does, like it or not - you can't change that, no matter how much you want to. [/quote]

And when a woman gets divorced, and agrees to 50/50 custody, she should realize that she gets 50% say - not 100%.

And, no, he doesn’t have to be “on the hook” for tuition. Especially if his ex wife wasn’t smart enough to agree that saving for college was a priority whilst they were married. It doesn’t work that way. She gave up a say over what happens to the money he brings in to his household whe she divorced him. State mandated calculations aside, he now gets to set the parameters of how much he is willing to contribute, and what the sideboards are. And if he is remarried, those figures may or may not be what the mother thinks they ought to be. But there is a new house, and a new life - because she bowed out.

You see, there are so many permutations. It isn’t just mom is always right and dad and new wife are always jerks.

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