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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kinder is such great year normally. I would redshirt a June bday this year in a heartbeat. April or earlier, probably no. June? Absolutely. [/quote]

Does anyone ever ask you how old you were when you graduated high school? College?  It doesn’t matter at all.  In the grand scheme of things, we are talking about a year difference.  Do what is best for your kid.[/quote]

How do  you think a kid will feel being an 19-20 year old senior?   Kids know who was held back.[/quote]

I know a lot of 19 year old high school seniors. Redshirting is pretty common, you know. None are 20—even if they were redshirted once they’re only 19. [/quote]

If I held my fall kid back, they would have been 18 all of senior year.  If a spring kid is held back they turn 19... the is way to old for high school.  If a parent held back last year, they would have started at 6 this year.  If they choose to hold back again, they will be 7 when they start.[/quote]

It’s truly okay.  It happens everywhere.  Not a huge deal.  BUT now there is a global emergency, so if there is an unusual number of kids who are 19 as seniors, there will be a specific reason for it.  I know three families redshirting.  Stop making it a huge deal.  If you don’t want to do it, then just don’t.  [/quote]

Its absurd for many reasons including the most important social.  You are dumbing down your kid to make them smarter and smarts has to do with IQ not age.  It also impacts kids socially as the expectations for the younger kids becomes unreasonable as people expect them to be at the same rate as their peers who can be 1-2 years older them them so its not a real peer.  It is really selfish to hold your child back as its easier to hold them back than teach them basics like reading.[/quote]

Actually, some kids are academically ready and socially not, so parents hold them back so that they won’t always be socially behind.
 And other times it’s the opposite - socially ready and academically not.

Also, read up a bit on IQ.  The way you are using the term is the way we thought about IQ 40 years ago.  Our intelligence is malleable, not fixed.[/quote]

Its K. No kid would be truly ready except those whose parents and preschools prepared them.  It takes parenting.  If a child is that behind they should be evaluated and in services.  Just ignoring it and holding a child back doesn't fix things.

Holding back does not make your kid smarter, just older.  You can think it does, go for it.  [b]Your kid will be teased for you holding them back.[/b][/quote]

I don’t know why you’re trying to scare people, unless you’re crazy “natural law” lady from the other redshirting thread. But this just isn’t true. Kids really don’t care exactly when their classmates’ birthday is.  In our actual experience, not crazy speculation, it is a nonissue. Overwhelmingly, those who redshirt are glad they did so.  Which doesn’t mean it’s the only right choice - but it is not a wrong one. [/quote]

I used to teach eighth grade (before moving grade levels), and I overheard, and intervened in, many conversations in which kids were not very kind when they had classmates who turned 15 during eighth grade. A frequent series of questions was, "Why? What's wrong with you? Did you fail a grade?" [/quote]

Honestly, that kind of response is probably just impulsive. Obviously, they have no right to be mad at the kid, as it was their parents' decision, not theirs, to redshirt. I mean, this older student was probably constantly outshining his or her classmates and winning every class competition, and when they found out that it was because they had an unfair advantage, it's only natural that anger would've been their immediate reaction. Wouldn't you feel angry if you found out that someone beat you unfairly?[/quote]

Nah, kids will tend to pick on any outlier, especially if the target isn't one of the "cool kids" in their class.  Older, younger, taller, shorter, fatter, skinnier, top of class, bottom of class, etc. regardless if there is cause.

You're certainly projecting here with the whole "constantly outshining" bit as the motivating reason.  But a 13yo isn't going to magically constantly outshine a class full of 12yos academically just because they're a year older, unless they'd ALSO have been top of their class had they gone on time... in which case they've likely been done a disservice by being held back a year.  There's probably a few years in there where they get a good advantage in sports just because of physical maturation and size, but again by HS that one-year advantage has disappeared.  The top athletes make varsity teams as sophomores, as the year or two advantage the Jrs/Srs have is easily overcome by superior talent.[/quote]

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