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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, status NEVER crosses my mind when I see someone with 3 kids.   Never.

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lol...I was thinking that same thing.  I really don't see how having multiple kids can be a status symbol.[/quote]

DP, but for some people, more kids = more resources, more balls you're able to juggle, more "success" if you also work (think ACB and everyone fawning over her seven (seven!!!) children (she has it all!)).[/quote]

There are easier ways to show you have resources. Vacation homes, private schools and tutors, nice house etc. I cannot believe that people make a third kid choice for “status.”

We want three because when we picture our family 15, 30 years from now we want 3 teenagers or adults sitting with us. DH is from a big family, I’m not. [/quote]

I don't disagree that there are easier ways to show you have resources, but I absolutely think there are people who have a third (or fourth, now) kid to signal status.  They may not even be aware of that as a factor, but I know way too many [b]Type A people who get a charge out of their ability to display their professional and parental prowess by having 3+ kids[/b].  It wasn't why we have three kids, but is that a reason for some people?  Totally.[/quote]

Fascinating to hear this. I'm totally Type A and I do enjoy being able to "do it all" (i.e. hold down a well-respected and high-paying job, keep our large house in immaculate condition, participate in my kids' activities, make meals for friends in need, volunteer in the community, host fun parties - pre-COVID, obviously), but it would never occur to me that it would matter to anyone whether I was doing those things with two kids or three kids. I guess I could see people being more impressed the more kids you have but I honestly find that the weirdest reason ever to have another child (and I fully admitted to being someone who likes having people think I'm super woman).[/quote]

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