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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 37 and single. I’ve been trying I find a certain type of woman and just haven’t. You can say I’m looking for a 1950’s housewife. I don’t expect a servant or anything like that, but I wanted a woman who wants to stay at home taking care of her kids and husband. I’m looking for a woman who wants to take care of raising the kids and responsibilities of the household, while I work and manage things like finances. Most of the women I meet want to be a SAHM only short-term, or want to be a SAHM but expect the man to be a 50/50 partner in childcare and household responsibilities. I’m looking for a woman who can handle the bulk of it. How do I find a woman like this? [/quote]

I am a SAHM, I do the bulk of the child raising and hire out the house cleaning. However, when we were dating, I told my soon to be husband that I would never ever be a SAHP.  Life interceded and we have two children with special needs that need more attention than a dual working couple can provide -at least ours.  However, I don't think you can count on that happening  to you.  But, life can throw you curveballs and maybe you would end up easing up on your career do what it takes to raise your children. Once you have children, they are the priority.  You are responsible for them.  If you can't be flexible, reconsider having children.

I will also add that someone can be the default parent and still work.  They may reduce their hours to get the flexibility or SAH for a few years when that doesn't work.  The hours may already be excellent for being the default.

My suggestion would be to find a person in a job that generally leads to being a default parent.  I have seen teachers, nurses, some CPAs, even lawyers be the default.  Plus county, state and federal employees in professional capacities often have options too.

IMO, dual working couples should be the default - and if that doesn't work - then sah/woh can be the fall back situation. [/quote]

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