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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I remember from childhood when I didn't want to do something my feet would be killing me which didn't help my mood.  If it was something I was interested in, I was foot loose and fancy free.  It just may be that age.

Also, did they eat differently when they were visiting you compared to their diet at home?  You mentioned early on that they would eat simple carbs all the time if they had their choice - if the food was different, it may have messed with their blood sugar, making them hangry and cranky.  Of course healthier food is better, but dietary changes may have had an impact on their behavior in the short term.[/quote]

Op here. I asked for a list before they got here of what to buy. It was pizza, hot dogs, chicken nuggets, donuts, cereal, mac n cheese. I bought them what they asked for but tried to also provide healthy sides (broccoli, peas, strawberries, apples, etc.). [b]They asked for[/b] soda and[b] juice [/b]but I did not buy those things.

Their diets aren’t great but that’s really for their parents to sort out, not me. No way am I picking a battle like that with visiting tweens. [/quote]

Wow, you are so rigid that you wouldn't even serve/buy them juice?

I also want to reinforce what another poster has said.  You seem much more interested in validating what you've done and looking for reinforcement than you are in really "helping" these girls.  You have managed to respond to everyone with whom you've wanted to argue and completely ignored the one act that can help them get on track for college.  It is the AVID program.  Look it up.

Finally, perhaps you were the cool aunt before the trip.  I think that your stridency got in the way of that now.  You have some leg work to do to get back on track if your (admirable) goal truly is to help these girls get to college.  You will have to decide whether their long-term goals and college are more important to you than stroking your own ego.  I hope you chose the girls and let go of your ego a little bit.  You will need to cool your jets and rebuild their trust.  You will need to build their self-esteem and act respectful of their family unit to do that.  I want to believe that you have good intentions but that your enthusiasm got in the way of your common sense.  I hope that you are able to recover the lost ground.  Good luck.[/quote]

Op here. I’m not their parent, but it’s my house. Juice and soda are not allowed in our house.

I haven’t lost any ground. I have no idea what you’re even talking about.

I’ll look up the AVID Program.

I live in another state two plane rides away from them. I’ve got my own children to raise. I’m here to expose them to ideas and possibilities but I’m not going to be able to get them into college on my own. [/quote]

I think your slightly overestimating how hard it is to “get into college.” If only you knew some of the kids who “got into college” from my kid’s high school![/quote]

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