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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ahahahah my brother’s wife is just like OP and we have very very similar issues. When in the past I wrote about her (SIL) everyone thought that I needed to stay out of their relationship and that I was a nightmare. 
Now it’s all different with this OP.... why?
I agree!!! OP is crazy and if my DH wanted to be part of every conversation and visit witt my family I would not allow it and would have never married him in the first place.
The truth is that unfortunately some men just want peace and will give in to an abusive wife just like OP and my SIL[/quote]

I agree you do need to stay out of someone else's marriage. Why do you feel it is your place to get involces in another person's marriage? What was an example of something your SIL did that's like me? Did you ever make the effort to include your SIL? Do you just focus on your brother and exclude her and make her feel like the outsider. It's SIL and MIL's like you who I can't stand who expect to still be #1 in their son's/brother's life and can't accept that he has a wife and still wants to exclude her.[/quote]

That is my brother and I see him maybe 4-5 times twice a year. We probably talk once every two weeks and he has to do it when his wife is not around. She is crazy just like you. Why are you so insecure?
My brother chose to stay with his wife because they have a daughter together and thinks he can change his wife (I am sure that’s not going to happen... fingers crossed)

I don’t get involved in his marriage (except when she attacks me personally). I used to include her in everything, but i should be allowed to also see my brother without her (not in secret). OP, you and my SIL should get together... you would make a formidable couple. 
If your situation is anything like ours, I can promise you that EVERYONE (friends and family) think you are crazy and feel horrible for your husband. We think SIL is just stupid and mean... if I were you, I would try to change fast and show everyone that you can be a decent human being[/quote]

You said you used to include her and then you stopped well that is pretty telling. She is probably wondering why you stopped including her. [/quote]

In our case she was not so obviously crazy at the beginning and I was very neutral to her, but because she was my brother’s gf and then wife, I made extra efforts to be nice, include her etc. we live far away from each other so we were never close. 
For the past couple of years she either became crazy or more likely showed who she really was. She is controlling, mean, judgemental and just really crazy. As of now, I am not talking to her anymore and I want nothing to do with her. She can abuse my brother, but she won’t do that to me. 
For what is worth, she was part of all our whatsup chats in the past and she decided to leave them all (and made my brother do the same)... so yes... now she is not part of our conversations. Before you ask, she decided to get out of our conversations because wanted to focus on her daughter... whatever.... she is crazy[/quote]

I love how in cases like these the wording is over oh the bitch of the wife made him do it. Your brother has a mind of his own and unless she was holding a gun to his hand he wasn't forced. He is a grown man and those to do it. You can't always default to automatically blaming his wife for his own actions[/quote]

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