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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]stay away during his custody time[/quote]

Op here. I do completely.[/quote]

That's not at all what you said. You seem to change the story to suit your narrative.[/quote]

Op here. Here is when I’ve intruded on her custody time—last week because of Covid—I came over. In the summer, once or twice.  And a couple of times for specific events—she’s come over to my house or we’ve done the activities cited. Again, I’ve been dating her father for 4 years.  I have never ever slept over during custody time. [/quote]

But you wanted to intrude on her spring break weekend with him.  Don't you understand?  Open your eyes.  This isn't about what's happening now.  It's about what you WANT to do, what you are PLANNING to do.  She knows that this is what it's about.  And you do too, when you're not being willfully obtuse.[/quote]

Op here. No. I didn’t want to intrude which is why I suggested just joining one weekend and not the entire week.  This was a compromise so they can have their spring break. But at some point, something had to give...and my boyfriends family invited me. I am not going to keep hiding.

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Don't be obtuse.  You did want to intrude on the weekend.  And this is about the long term.  You WANT to marry him eventually, right?  And you are PLANNING to move in together eventually, right?  That's what you said and I suspect she knows it.  You want, and he wants, to foist you into the family against his daughter's wishes.  "Something" does not "have" to give.  You chose to intrude.  That's what's happening here.[/quote]

+1.  OP, stop avoiding responsibility.  You chose to force the spring break weekend issue.  "Something" does not "have" to give.  This was your and your boyfriend's decision and you made it.  I don't even disagree with you, but don't pretend it wasn't a choice.[/quote]

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