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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Regret is about your own emotion. Feeling guilty or upset or hurt or angry or devastated because of what you did. I can't believe I did that, I thought I was a better person, I can't believe how awful it feels right now to be me, to have to feel this way due to what I did. It is all about 'me'. Regret leads to actions that make the person feel better themselves.

Remorse is about the emotions of others and being devastated by the impact of what you did to others. Feeling guilty or sad over the hurt you caused others and realizing that your own emotions are secondary to how you made others feel. Remorse leads to actions that try to repair the damage caused to others and to make others feel better. Remorse leads to putting their own needs/wants as secondary and prioritizing how best to help the person they impacted heal.[/quote]

Just to add, I think many people confuse regret with remorse. They see tears or guilt and they think that means they can work through it. Tears or guilt related to regret won't lead to any forward progress. I do think that a marriage can survive infidelity if there is true remorse and both parties want to try to make it work. I don't think a marriage can be healthy following infidelity if there is only regret, no matter how much both people might say they want to make it work.[/quote]
? PP, "remorse" is defined as: "deep regret or guilt for a wrong committed"
how do the two differ in your example?[/quote]

I think, in the cheating world, it goes like this: The cheated upon think the cheaters will find remorse ... a deep feeling that they, the cheaters, did something wrong and hurt their spouse awfully and they will wish they'd never done it. Instead, what happens 99% of the time is that cheaters find regret ... a deep feeling that they should have hid their actions better and they wish their spouse had never found out.[/quote]

If a cheater was capable of remorse, they wouldn’t have cheated in the first place.[/quote]

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