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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, when your husband was cheating, did you notice any odd financial transactions?  I do have access to accounts. In the past he would take out 200-400 cash. He has never explained what he does with his cash.[/quote]

DP. Those amounts could be anything. Does he travel for work and he'll claim the cash is emergency money for travel? 
I suspect instead that he hopes that by taking out relatively small amounts, you won't notice the repeated withdrawals, and he's putting the money away for paying for a lawyer for himself. Or paying prostitutes. Or: Does the "former" OW work near enough to his workplace that he could be using this cash to meet her during the work day for expensive lunches or hotel sex?

Have you ever asked him about these withdrawals? If not, why not? Ask now. Do it with a bank statement in front of you showing some of these transactions. Act like you're merely, innocently checking to be sure the bank didn't make a mistake. Watch his reaction closely.

Start putting aside money for yourself in a new account only in your name, in a bank that is NOT the one where you and he have any joint accounts. Ensure no paper statements come to your house. You need exit money. Remember he could clean out any joint accounts. [/quote]

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