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OP here - thank you. This is similar since one of my own kids was part of the group I was chatting with. I would like to understand why parents might be so sensitive about something like this, like the story you described. This is how kids learn how to behave and socialize. Teacher and caretakers are not always available to chime in.

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OP, you've already been told that but you aren't interested in understanding why parents are sensitive about something like this, you are interested in making everyone say, you are right and they are wrong, of course what you did is perfect.  That's not going to happen.

For the complete avoidance of doubt on your end: [b]you are not allowed to correct kids other than your own, unless they are in immediate physical danger, or mistreating another child or yours right in front of you.[/b]  If children are not in your care, the way they behave is not your business.  They may be perfect little assholes but their parents have every right to their parenting choices and it's not up to you to correct it.   It's clear that you see yourself in the role of The One Who Teaches Kids How to Behave and Socialize, and the truth is no one hired you for the job.

My children are grown but when they were of elementary age, I've taught them a neat trick that made sure all preachy adults stayed the hell away from them.  The trick is to start screaming, "you are not my mother! you're not my mother!"  It got all other adults to stare at the talking adult in a way that she wished the earth would open up and swallow her whole.  I instructed my children as to which specific adults they should obey; if you weren't on the list, you got the "you're not my mother!" treatment.   You don't want that, believe me.[/quote]

I was going to respond to the bold -- by saying that you don't get to tell adults what to do -- but then I read your last paragraph. Ha ha, wow. You are f'iing nuts to teach your kids to react to people like that (and then brag about it???). Crazy parenting. Crazy.[/quote]

Jhoon Rhee Tae Kwon Do (and other martial arts/self defense) teaches kids to do that if any adult they don’t know comes up to them and starts talking, grabbing or touching them.  It’s more likely to get attention than “Help!”[/quote]

Yes but that you would equate the parent of their friend talking to them about excluding a sibling with an adult they don't know "comes up to them and starts talking, grabbing or touching them" is insane. It's INSANE. Why would you teach your child to be that fearful about another adult in their community? Nuts....[/quote]

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