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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I truly don't understand how someone could cheat and not even remotely consider how it will affect their kids.  What on earth did your kids do to deserve that?[/quote]

There are 6 billion people on the planet - none of em are perfect and most of em are totally preoccupied with self - which means there's a lotta things you're not gonna understand when it comes to the stuff people do.
Don't stress.  [/quote]

So who cares what the kids think?  Is that what you are saying?[/quote]

You're obviously hurting to send such an antagonistic response.  
I'm sorry for the pain others' selfishness has caused you and your family.

NO, I am not saying "who cares what the kids think."  
What I'm saying is that despite all the study and research over the years even the foremost experts of psychology, psychiatry, anthropology, cognitive science, and behavioral science still don't truly understand why people do the things they do so you shouldn't stress about not knowing either.  
That's all I'm saying.[/quote]

No hurt here.  No cheating etc in my long term marriage and no selfishness etc.
Your response is that why should I worry about anyone’s reaction including kids.  My reaction is that I would try to minimize the hurt from avoidable actions on my part.  My husband is the same way.  Your selfishness stands out in contrast.[/quote]

Interesting.  
Please explain how exactly am I being selfish.  
I didn't express any opinion for/against the ethical nature of cheating unlike most posters, nor did I make any excuses for those who cheat or advise those who are cheated on to be more "understanding."  I simply pointed out that stressing over things we don't understand - human behavior in particular - is futile.  
Not saying it should be accepted by default, just saying if Freud and Jung and Rogers could at best only theorize human behavior what chance does the average individual have of understanding how someone could cheat and not even remotely consider how it will affect their kids?  
How exactly is that being selfish?  
Your rush to negative presumption suggests you may not be hurt, but you definitely are extremely cynical and judgemental.[/quote]

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