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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if this post is really not written by a troll, then here is my take as a 20+ year middle and high school teacher:

Your child's reaction to one moment of anger is very extreme.  My assessment is that you're treating your anger over the "low" grade as a one-off rant while your child sees it as just another instance where you've become outrageously angry and hurtful.  When children react so strongly it is usually because they've been pushed over the line.  This doesn't sound like one mistake by you in your reaction.

You need to check yourself, OP, and do some serious self-reflection.  Is it possible that you have an anger-management issue?  And are you hyper-critical about all aspects of your child's life, not just this grade?

Think about the previous 10 interactions with your child.  Would your child give them a thumbs up for you being positive, or a thumbs down for negative?  My guess is that your child would give you 10 thumbs down.

I think that if you want to improve what is happening in your child's life then you need to improve how you treat your child.  Probably the best answer for you is your own therapy so that you can figure out how to interact with your child.  In the meantime you also do some family therapy to learn how you can work together and to help your daughter regain her trust in you.[/quote]

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