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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t get this either. It doesn’t apply to me bc I changed my name to my husband’s and my kids have his surname too simply because I really didn’t like my maiden name and don’t really like my father or his family so didn’t want to be associated w the name anymore. But I don’t understand why even women who don’t want to take their husbands name often still default to giving the kids their husbands name.[/quote]

Me too. Wonder how much love (or lack thereof) of your family plays into it for most people. My guess is it correlates strongly. [/quote]

I'm sorry, what?  Are you saying that women who choose to change their name don't love their families?  [/quote]

DP but I think the point is that there’s more impetus to change your name if you’re not close w your family of origin.[/quote]

Not true.  I changed my name to my husband's last name and I adore my father and am very close to him and I also didn't hate my maiden name and I got all my degrees (college, masters, doctorate) with my maiden name.  I had no desire to escape my maiden name or my family in any way, shape or form.  But I did want my family with my husband and my children to be all the same unit with the same name.  Clearly, other people have different opinions, which is fine, but you can't lump people together in this.[/quote]

I didn’t say that people who change their name dont love their family. I said [i]if[/i] you don’t love your family, you might have more motivation to change your name.[/quote]

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