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[quote=Anonymous][quote]This was my hypothesis once upon a time but if you look at the most "equal" societies on earth - the Scandinavian countries - you see the opposite result. The reality is, for many people, even those with very financially successful careers, a job is just a job. There's a lot of fulfillment that one can derive from being a more involved, present-at-home parent and member of the community, whatever that happens to look like day to day.[/quote]

This is a key point and one that gets lost in the battle of the sexes and score-keeping in marriage (of which I can be guilty of too).

On average, when people are free to pursue their desires, the men primarily provide financially and somewhat provide domestically, the women somewhat provide financially and primarily provide domestically.  So I totally get the women on here who are rightfully questioning why they want to shack up with a man who isn't primarily providing and who, if he is like his male brethren, isn't going to primarily provide domestically.  And even if he did, I have seen very few women maintain attraction to their domiciled SAHDs.

Even in my marriage, I make substantial money and when my SAHM DW went back to work part-time, the resentment kicked into overdrive about what she perceived I wasn't doing around the house.  I can only imagine what that would look like if I wasn't making good money, and she was working full time as well.

tl;dr dating is wonderful, marriage is hard.[/quote]

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