Reply to Do fat women who are Body-Positive really love being fat?

Forum Index » Beauty and Fashion

Reply to "Do fat women who are Body-Positive really love being fat?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Fat person here. This. All day long. I don’t love being fat, I doubt anyone does. But I am so f$#&*%g tired of being looked down on, or ignored, or treated like a second class citizen because people assume I’m lazy, or dumb or whatever else (cue the aholes who will respond to this with those exact comments). Losing weight for me is really, really hard, because I hate going to the gym, have two small children, and yes, I don’t want to spend my life starving myself and working out that I hate just to please society. And I have two young girls that I don’t want to subject to body shaming or make self conscious of their own bodies. My mother obsessed about weight and being fat her whole life, and it has imprinted itself on my brain in negative talk. I do NOT want my daughters dealing with that. So yeah, I have learned to accept my body, teach them that women are beautiful at any size, it’s what’s inside that counts, and anyone who says otherwise can go pound sand.[/quote]

So you are not lazy but you hate the gym, don't like to exercise, find it too hard to watch what you eat and blame your mom for your current size?[/quote]

Stop being obnoxious. You know that’s not what she said, but you just twisted it so you can imply she’s lazy. I do not understand why people feel the need to be such bitches to people they do not know.[/quote]

PP isn't being obnoxious. It's literally what the other PP said. She said she isn't lazy, but then said:

"I hate going to the gym"

"I don't want to spend my life starving myself" (hint: the majority of people don't need to starve themselves to attain a healthy weight -- yes I know SOME do, but not most)

"My mother was obsessed about weight and being fat and it has imprinted itself on my brain" -- blaming her mom

Newsflash: being healthy and working out isn't going to imprint negative, body-shaming crap on your daughters. In fact, it's an excellent example to show them. [/quote]

All true.  And your daughters will likely be overweight too and not because it's generic, because they are learning your habits.  Not that that is the worse thing in the world, but it is as if you know your girls will be overweight and you are preparing them for that instead of trying to change the trajectory and teach them good habits and healthy lifestyle  [/quote]

And how is that your problem? You and PP are fat shaming her.[/quote]

How is suggesting she should go to the gym, stop blaming her mom, and eat better fat shaming? [/quote]
Because it implies she isn’t fit at all (you can be fit without going to the gym), that she blames her mother (didn’t sound like it to me, she was explaining somyto you and that she eats trash (she just said she doesn’t want to starve herself, she doesn’t say she eats like a pig or eats bad foods). Do you see how what you said is perceived as fat shaming?[/quote]

Original PP here. While I appreciate you, immediate PP and the others defending me, don’t bother. These are the aholes I knew would get around to responding to my post eventually. If they need to feel superior by slamming others, just feel sad for them. You are right that I now eat well, and am plenty active with my kids. But the reality is that to lose a large amount of weight would require hours a day at the gym and not eating any fat, sugar, etc. - something my gurls would definitely notice. And I’m sure even if I lost a lot of the weight, it still wouldn’t be enough for people like the PPs who live to judge others. Enjoy your day.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics