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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The women who have the nerve to say “I let myself go because I actually love my kids and spend time with them” are so annoying. This is called DC urban MOM. Probably 95% of us here have kids. You aren’t special. You do not prioritize working out or taking care of yourself and that’s why you’ve let yourself go. It’s not that you’re busy and we aren’t (everyone is busy) or that you love your kids and we don’t. You just don’t do it.

Op, I have two kids. I work full time as a teacher. When I turned 30 I started doing Bikini Body Guide workouts in my living room while my kids, who were 5 and 1 at the time, watched tv. That’s how I know women who claim they can’t work out because of kids are full of shit. Yes you can. I did.

I eventually went back to work. I get up by 4 am every single day. I either work our in the morning from 5-6 or I do it when I get home from 5-6. It’s a habit now four years later. I go in my basement and work out.

I eat well 80% of the time. Again, anyone can do this. Some choose not to. They’re not better than anyone else because they eat like hell.

I dress nicely because I work hard and like to. I don’t slum around in yoga pants and baggy tees. It’s not hard to put a little makeup on and take care of your hair.

I don’t do this for anyone but me and that’s probably the main predictor of who will let themselves go and who won’t. I care about myself enough to want to be strong and healthy and capable. I like to look good for me. I’m not willing to compromise on that and then look in the mirror and hate myself.

Make time or don’t. Give a shit about yourself or don’t. That is all it comes down to. [/quote]

Well you kids watch TV and getting up at 4am is psycho. [/quote]

Dp. Who cares if kids watch tv while a parent works out? A 20 HIIT workout even 2 days a week, combined with some strength training and healthful eating does wonders. Waking up at 4 am is not psycho, if that is the only option. At some point, you have to make yourself a priority or you will physically decline beyond repair. Waking early to work out (or spend time for yourself) is absolutely worth it.[/quote]

No... waking up at 4am is seriously unhealthy and will take it's toll in other ways. Just because your outer body looks good does not mean your mind is good.

I'm not plopping my kids in front of the TV so I can "work out" I will take them for a hike. Which may not give me a beach body but is better for overall health... and I spend time with the kdis.

In life priorities shift... parents get sick.. you gonna do pilates in the hospital room? Jeez, relax... you don't have to maintain such a crazy schedule to not "let yourself go" and really, letting yourself go a little is amuch healthier... body and soul. [/quote]

NP but come on.  You can hike with the kids AND work out - small bursts of TV time is not going to negatively impact your kids.  I'd say [b]my entire generation of 80s [/b]kids grew up with cartoons and we are all just fine, and my kids don't watch nearly enough tv as I used to after school and on Saturday mornings.

I used to be on the elliptical at 8 pm after I put my three little ones to bed.  I'm not a morning person so no 4 am wakes for me, but I did it on the opposite end of my day.  And yes, I still played outside with my kids and spent time with them.  A hike with my kids simply wouldn't qualify as a workout for me.[/quote]

You mean the generation that crashed the economy with bad mortgages, brought us Crack and gave us Trump?

Please do not hold the 80's up as anything to model. Diet coke and Marlboro lights was a diet.

It's fine if it is "not a workout for you" but nobody wants to be you.

Your post is defending a woman that posted "[b]The women who have the nerve to say “I let myself go because I actually love my kids and spend time with them” are so annoying[/b]"

Go for it... wake at 4.. or cycle at 8pm (when I am cuddling with my kids)... but don't act like you are doing it the right way. It's your way... not the right/wrong way.. it's just a way... not better not worse but dang! NOT BETTER!!

Let your kids eat Lucky Charms while they watch TV while you do your elliptical so your H still likes you ... IDK/IDC, but don't act like it is the "right way". [/quote]

There's nothing in her post that said she is doing it the right way.  Nothing.  Nor that her kids eat Lucky Charms or that she is working out for her husband rather than herself.

She was opposing the sentiment that if you prioritize working out, even at 4 am, you must not "actually" love your kids the way a mom who lets herself go does, and that's nonsense. [/quote]

Nobody said you don't love your kids if you work out. If I would rather spend time with my kids... I am just saying that... every time I have an opportunity to work out I think... I'd rather go home to my kids.

If I invite somebody to happy hour and they say... I'd rather go home to my kids... I don't think "oh... she thinks I don't love my kids" I think... NOT me gurl, I need a drink.

Stop taking what people say... I'd rather be with my kids ....and turn it into... "she just said I don't love my kids as much"... stop being insecure. [/quote]

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