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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work full-time but the idea that SAHMs are socially stunted and unable to socialize is patently ridiculous. I am good friends with several SAHMs and of course they go out and have full social lives. I don't know a single one that fits the description of this limited woman under her husband's thumb. Also, most of them are married to good men who do their part of childrearing.

Similarly, of course there are many working parents who work flexibly, don't work crazy hours, share childcare evenly, have time to volunteer in classrooms and supervise homework, have very close relationships with their kids, etc.

Honestly sometimes I wonder how some of you DCUM posters manage to raise children, given how limited, rigid, and inflexible your world views are.[/quote]

You don't know any SAHMs whose husbands aren't involved parents?  Honestly, that's really surprising.[/quote]

That is exactly opposite of what I wrote, not sure how you got that. I know many SAHMs with involved husbands. [/quote]

PP here. Whoops, I am an idiot and misread. But to answer your question, I don't know many SAHMs with uninvolved husbands.

[b]I don't think good parenting is correlated at all to SAHM or working, [/b]tbh.[/quote]

Are you serious?  Being a SAHM more or less makes you the default parent.  You aren’t away for business trips so the kids are rarely left only with the dad.  It’s always assumed you will be home.  This means the dad is automatically less involved.

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Being the default parent doesn't make you automatically a good parent. There are plenty of abusive SAHMs out there. Similarly, a WOHD can be an excellent parent who raises great kids.

Honestly to me it's odd that you think hours spent automatically equates to good parenting. It makes me think you haven't seen much of the world. [/quote]

I was saying the opposite!  I think a SAHM being the default parent is a bad thing.  [/quote]

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