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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is completely enticingly vague about the relationship. It sounds like “with benefits “ relationship that resulted in an oops. Doesn’t sound like love. Doesn’t sound like commitment. Sounds like a problem. Take away the money (not guaranteed) and you have really nothing but an unwanted pregnancy and a baby daddy. [/quote]

OP here. This is a relationship that works in a lot of ways, but neither of us were in a rush to take it to the next level for reasons previously outlined, though deeper commitment and a future were potential future options. I’m on the fence about marriage (right now) because - although we love each other - marriage, a new family (particularly for him, who’s never been married and isn’t a dad), and a baby in the span of eight months feels insane.

He’s willing to work with me on a long-term financial plan and would be a hands-on dad. (He acknowledges he needs to work less.) He’s also willing to provide resources that would make my day-to-day life easier (a nanny, a house cleaner). He doesn’t want there to be a dynamic that separates “my kids” from the new baby, but I make a fine living myself and my two older kids are well provided for - their dad does well, too. (Neither of us, however, is a millionaire.)

No matter what happens, he and I will always be friends. We’ve known each other forever and are very close. It’s a safe relationship and I trust him, and I respect him, and he feels the same way about me. Both of my kids have asked for a younger sibling over the years and I asked them the other day how they would feel *if* I had a new baby, and they reacted with happiness and excitement. I’m leaning toward having the baby. [/quote]
OP  this update give a different perspective and a real chance that this could work out well. I wish you many blessings for your life and for your family. May you all be happy together. [/quote]

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