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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, why should she do his parenting role, hers as well, AND work full time outside of the home? Just because she’s a woman?[/quote]

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Ask the OP that question. She seems to want her husband to do her parenting role and work full time outside of the home because she makes more money.
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50/50 is the default expectation unless both explicitly agree otherwise. For example, OP and her husband mutually agreed to prioritize her significantly higher earning career. Yes, he is a high earner. However, a career that caps out at 200k is not in the same subcategory of high earner as a career that brings 400k a year with the potential for more. He agreed to prioritize her career precisely because it is significantly higher earning.

The only way that she can prioritize her career is if he picks up the slack at home. He agree to this and he's not holding up his end of the bargain.[/quote]

I am sorry, but you and OP are dense. This is not kindergarten where you pinky swear and promise to throw a tantrum if you don't get what you want just the way you want it. The "agreement " is clearly not working for OP. Time to move on.  We have a woman who has a husband making much more than what OP does, and he still gets to do his share of parenting. And that PP is happily married.

OP might want to try that agreement. If that will not do for her, there seems to be an even better way to handle things:  outsource most of the stupid stuff for Pete's sake.

She loves neither herself nor her husband if she spends a second thinking about laundry that he did not do while earning 600K . Ridiculous![/quote]

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