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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I (not Jewish) am in an interfaith marriage and my husband's family (Orthodox Jewish) went through much of the hand-wringing you describe. I can't tell you how hurtful it was to us. In the end, everyone came and no one made a stink, and many of the biggest holdouts later confessed they didn't know why they had gotten so worked up, but still. Just the discussions we had leading up to the wedding were so incredibly hurtful that my relationship with my in-laws was forever damaged. So much so that it has driven me further away from accepting Judaism in my life when before I was open to it being a strong part of my new family. Don't do that to your sister. Don't do that to yourself. And most of all, remember that this wedding is NOT ABOUT YOU. That is what I came back to over and over again in our discussions with my husband's family. The wedding was not about them and their feelings about it were irrelevant. Any attempts to make it otherwise is pointless and destructive to all involved. If you love your sister, put her above all else, swallow your pride, shut your mouth, and stand by her side. There is no reason to try and make a point. And what is the point? That your love is conditional?[/quote]

Your husband comes from an orthodox family and married a non-Jew? I thought that was basically against the rules. You didn’t have to convert? He must have known his family would not approve.  I’m sure the relationship between your DH and his family is also damaged. Must be hard for you both. 
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