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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You and your DH do eat healthily but you are modeling basically dieting behaviors to your DD. Here is how you start the day for your dd.
Huge breakfast:
several rashers of bacon
3 eggs
bagel with nutella or cream cheese on.
Juice and ensure if possible.
You wake her up early and you make it and she starts by eating more and more, if you need you eat the same. She won't eat all of it the first week, but you do this. 
I hate to say this, but[b] your eating is modeling your DD's eating. Sounds like you and your DH are very healthy food conscious, which would normally be awesome! but not for your DD, not in her case. Go to Texas Road House and you and your DH model eating a whole steak and baked potatoes and bread and a salad. I answered in earnest but your menu posting makes me wonder, if you are serious about your DD's issue or maybe a troll?[/b][/quote]

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Huh? Troll? Why? Because we value nutrition? DD’s hands on diet was developed by her dietician based on the favorite foods DD shared and committed to eat. We made a contract with her doctor based on what is sustainable and healthy. We haven’t been doing this long enough to evaluate if it’s successful. DH is an athlete. I am a dancer. Nutrition is important to us, but we are aware DD’s needs are different from ours. Texas Roadhouse? Really?[/quote]
Yes, really. OP you don't seem to understand the severity of your DD's issue or you have overstated her problems. Is she a failure to thrive or not? Sure, choose, Marx' steak house, but feed your kid. If her nutritionist is doing this the healthy way... is it working? I am just a stranger on dcum, you are right not to listen to me, but ask yourself if this is working? If it is working... why is there a feeding tube talk? If your DD is not gaining weight your way and dietitian's way is there any open minded solution here? I say seek another nutritionist. Sadly my DS's one moved to New Orleans. I will be grateful to her for the rest of my life. I wanted it done healthy way, we tried, didn't work. She told us to do it this way, and it eventually worked. DS is back to eating healthily now. Didn't make him a junk food addict for the rest of his life. Anyway, I said enough, I don't think your DD is eating enough based on BTDT and my DS grew. You do you. My DS is an athlete too, you write your DD does ballet, daily? How many hours per week? And yet she is eating like a bird when she should be eating more than preteen that is not active. I tried to explain what worked, but you can't help people that don't want help.[/quote]

OP, I have followed this whole thread and tried to offer helpful advice.  The more you have posted about your own diet, your daughter eating red peppers, etc.  the more I think this pp is onto something.  I suspect you have your own issues with food that your daughter is picking up on in addition to her own issues.  Your daughter's diet is not normal for a pre-teen kid.  They can eat some level of crap and be fine if they are active and burn a lot of calories.  Wanting to eat healthy is admirable but it hasn't worked.  Why are you making food you know she doesn't like?  Let her try anything and everything until you find foods she will eat.  Go to the store and let her pick out all the crap her friends like.  When was the last time your daughter had Dominos, Chick fil A, Five Guys etc?  She needs calories not fish and red peppers. [/quote]

The day I gave was not an average but one day - a snapshot of our last week. Yes, we offer fast food, which she doesn't like much but will eat. Chicken nuggets, fries, donuts, burritos, tacos, pizza. We keep potato chips, cookies, hard pretzels, nuts, pop tarts, ice cream and yogurt in the house at all times and she is always welcome to snack. No foods are off limits in our house. In fact, her best friend practically lives at our house because she loves the snacks her mom won't buy. I think I buy snacks for her as much as for DD, who eats very little. We go shopping together. We make lists of her favorite foods together. We cook together. DD likes to be home and we like to eat as a family, but I am starting to think we should go out more.

My comment about red peppers was to illustrate that she needs more education about how to fuel her body. I was surprised at her response to eat those first and have since stopped giving her veggies in her lunch.

And for the record, I have no problem with Texas Roadhouse. I've never heard of it. My reaction was to the quantity, not quality, of the food. There is no way she would eat that much.[/quote]

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