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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring! [/quote]

Me too! X1000 when it’s a destination.  Forgive me for not wanting you to dictate where I spend my one vacation per year. [/quote]

I think it's odd to frame it as the couple dictating where you spend your vacation....  they can have their wedding wherever they want.  They invite you to join, and you decide not to.  They aren't trying to "dictate" anything simply by including you. [b] If they then get pissy about you not coming, that's absurd, [/b]but of all of the weddings I have been to all over the place, I have never once thought of my friends and family trying to dictate my vacation time. [/quote]

But isn't that the point of this thread and the other child-free wedding thread?  A lot of people will get pissy if you decline the invitation to their child-free destination wedding.  It seems like people with children are freaking out about child-free weddings because they feel like they've been summoned to the wedding (i.e. have so much family or social pressure that they can't decline without drama), but can't necessarily find adequate child care.  Likewise, a lot of bridezillas seem to think that if you won't jump through a bunch of hoops, spend tons of money, and ditch your kids somewhere for their wedding, that you're not a true friend.  If everyone treated wedding invitations like an invitation and not a summons, none of this drama would exist.[/quote]

No, that's not the point of this thread.  This thread isn't about people who get married and think everyone should drop everything to be there regardless of how it inconveniences them.  Honestly, I don't know anyone like that in real life.  This thread isn't about the couple getting married at all - its about people who are peeved when their kids aren't invited.  Plenty of people have articulated very logical reasons that they can't make kid free weddings work, particularly when they're out of town.

I had a kid-free destination wedding.  The majority of our friends with kids were able to be there, and we were so grateful.  Of course there were friends that weren't able to make it due to childcare reasons or financial reasons.  I never once thought twice about it and we're all still friends.  Who are these people getting so bent out of shape over this stuff, both kids not being invited and guests not being able to come?  I know there is a lot of bridezilla behavior out there, but I have been through the wedding planning process with so many friends and this just has never been a real issue (with one exception of a friend whose extended  family was really pissed about the no kids thing, but that stemmed from cultural reasons).[/quote]

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