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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DP here. He was doing it because he wanted to, not because she wanted to. And when she made it clear she didn't want to, he made it clear his desire to do what he wanted with her body (sexual or not) overruled her choices.

That's kind of the definition of "for his pleasure," PP. It sure as hell wasn't for her health.[/quote]

It is not any more complicated than what this PP states. Period.

Those of you passing this off as something else, and using it as a way to brand "Me Too" as "whiny", are disgusting.[/quote]

I don't think anyone is defending the other guy's actions.  They were out of bounds. The disagreement is whether OP overreacted by responding in a physical manner.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

Read the whole thread. People have made excuses for the drunk guy and mocked the me too movement. [b]That’s what happens in a rape culture[/b]. Then when they get called out for trying to give the drunk guy a pass, someone else comes along and says it never happened, we must not have understood what people meant when they said the guy was only trying to help her have a little fun. [/quote]

+1 The fact that anyone tried to make OP feel like she overreacted is indicative of a problem. What if OP was a guy? Protective dad probably would  have been given more benefit of the doubt for being able to correctly interpret another guys intentions.

OP did not OVERreact. She REACTED and RESPONDED to a threat. The threat was an adult using their status to manipulate her daughter and make her feel like SHE DOESNT HAVE CONTROL in a place where she should feel safe.

This guy would have gotten a big reaction from me too as well as a specific confrontation on just what he thinks he is doing and to explain himself right away. Not because I would think he deserves a chance to explain to himself, but because I would want to make him say out loud what the hell he was thinking so I could tell him exactly what I saw and why it was not ok.

I would have had the exact same reaction were it a woman. Noone  restricts my child physically and tells them THEY are in any kind of control. It is without doubt an inexcusable offense with no legitimate explanation. Its the combination of the grab and the threat to not let go unless the child complies that is the offense here.

OP I think its clear that you have made a choice and you made the right choice. Part of making the right choice means living with the fact that other people will not agree.

To hell with those "friends" who don't get this. Those are [b]not friends.[/b]

Do not let these people make you second guess your instinctive reaction to the CLEAR OFFENSE which is of a very serious nature because of the attempt to normalize what in another context would be an assault. [/quote]

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