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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS has been bullied- I do think this is bullying, but some of parents on here sound over the top.

Talk to the coach. Allow your DD the chance to decide if she wants to stay on the team or leave to be around less crappy people.

FWIW, I had a friend in HS who was part of our group, but not well liked. Our ring leader bullied her by giving her the wrong information about parties and hang outs we were all attending. The group went along or were silent. I reached out later and apologized for being complicit with this behavior.  Of course, I realized later how much I had hurt her feelings and how wrong my actions were.

...but also, and this is no excuse for our behavior, this girl was a "hanger on," not well-liked, and not getting it- there was nothing wrong with her, it was just a personality mismatch and we were immature bullies about it.

I think OP you need to have an honest conversation with your daughter about how she is fitting in with this team. It may not be a good match. [b]Does that mean she should quit? Maybe not, but she might need to recognize that these girls are *not* her friends and act accordingly by finding other friends outside of the sport. [/b][/quote]

Yes, this.[/quote]

OP btw, my brush with HS bullying ended like this...I had almost forgotten it. After the bullied girl, left the group, the ringleader started to turn on me until I left the group. It was a hard lesson that I had coming. Will end with a DRAMATIC Winston Churchill paraphrase "appeasement is like feeding a crocodile, hoping it will eat you last."

The other girls were probably grateful these two bullies didn't single them out, but if your leaves the team or doesn't stand for it, they will find new targets. [/quote]

should say "if your DD leaves the team or doesn't stand for it"[/quote]

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