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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I teach as an adjunct and I need to reinforce what some of the other PPs have said. There is ZERO chance that your daughter didn't know about this grade. Nowadays all of this is done electronically, and I typically hear from students within moments of posting the grades, because they are automatically notified. This is equally true of slackers as well as type A students. She may not have known at the commencement ceremony, but she knew--no doubt about it.

Your daughter is trying to deflect the blame onto the school for her failure to do well in a class. I get it, but you really shouldn't fall for it. She got herself into this mess, she can get herself out of it (as a PP said, universities do appreciate that they are in the customer service business; they will work with her to resolve this.) But getting hysterical and blaming the school is a handy way of letting your daughter off the hook... again.[/quote]

+1000

I teach a large class required for a major at a T25 school. Not only do students know their grades, they also get audits for graduation and are lectured about the rules many times. Your daughter is lying to you. I have seen that again and again. And you are playing into it exactly how she hoped. 
Getting angry at the school seems like the easier route but it would be a huge abdication of responsibility for your daughter. Your daughter f*ed up and needs to learn this life lesson now and not when she screw up at 35.  There will be another job.

If only she had gotten in trouble earlier for something smaller. But she is an adult now. Make her pay back the tuition over her first few working years and sock that money in a retirement fund for her if you can afford it, but don’t tell her until she is 30. You will both be thankful later.

Or if you are rich you can probably buy your way out of this problem but the amount of money needed for that will depend on the school. And you will need to be rich even by DCUM standards for that. [/quote]

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