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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm still stuck on a grandparent inviting a grandkid for 2 weeks, and intentionally making things she knows the kid won't like.  Everything else is just noise compared to this.  If you had an adult houseguest for 2 weeks, would you make things you know she doesn't like?  Of course not.  OP is a shitty grandparent, and a shitty person.  [/quote]

I'm sure you're Grandparent of the Year. *Slow clap*[/quote]

"Make food you know your guest (and everyone else) likes, and don't make food you know your grandkid won't like" is not sufficient to be grandparent of the year.  It's the bare minimum for decent behavior.  No one is suggesting that you become a short order cook.  [b]What we are suggesting is that it'll be fairly easy to determine what meals he likes, and . . . make them for everyone.[/b] Make dinners that everyone likes.  This is not rocket science.

Instead, your approach seems to be, "I am going to make what I want, even though I *know* he won't like it.  And I'm going to use this opportunity to preemptively scold him for being a picky eater."  And yes, this makes you a shitty host, and yes, a shitty person.  That you either refuse to see or acknowledge this is a whole other issue.  [/quote]

The kid has an extremely limited list of items that he'll eat. Unless OP and her husband is willing to limit themselves to pizza (and no vegetables) every night, that's not going to work. If OP wants to eat normally and 100% accommodate kid's pickiness, then she basically has to make two separate meals. In other words, be a short order cook.

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That's ridiculous.  OP said, "He also doesn't like anything other than American food and will make all sorts of remarks about how much he hates vegetables[.]"  There's a wide range there.    Roast chicken, hamburgers, steaks, pork chops, brats - and you can prepare chicken, beef, and pork any number of ways.  Make vegetables and a starch separately, and if the kid doesn't eat it, so what?  Throw in a pizza or two, and a few meals out, and it's pretty simple.

The real problem is this, from the OP - "I like to cook a variety of dishes from various non-American cuisines[.]"  In other words, OP wants to make what she wants, despite the fact that she has a houseguest that she *knows* won't like quite a bit of it.  She doesn't want to change, at all.   Again, would that be OK if it were her husband's best friend coming to visit?  Of course not.  She's more than able to "eat normally" and prepare one meal for everyone.  It may not be the exact meals she would prepare if the kid wasn't there, but part of being a good host is taking into account guest's preferences.

My parents don't particularly care for curry dishes.  We typically make some kind of curry once a week.  But when they visit, guess what?  I skip the curry and make something else.   What you are suggesting is that since we like curry, and usually make it, I should make it when they are here, even though I know they don't like it.  How on earth is that an acceptable and considerate way to host someone?  [/quote]

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