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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t mean to sound harsh but sounds like the wife laid out a few nice traps for the OP. OP fell for it originally and is about to really fall for it now by moving to some rural area where he knows no one. [/quote]

Good grief.  This wasn't a ONS where this woman got Op drunk in a purposeful attempt to seduce him and get pregnant by him.  She knew Op for years, they had a friendship that led to something more.  Then they got married with eyes wide open about each other.  Nobody tricked anyone.  Get over that notion.

Op told her point blank that he wouldn't consider moving to her hometown.  She decided to stick with him in spite of that.  She told Op that she wanted to marry and become a SAHM - Op agreed to that. Now that they have 3 kids and she has her hands full she would love to be closer to her family and friends.[/quote]

Thank you for clearly stating the facts. There was indeed no traps set, and no bait-and-switch.

Now it's just a matter of working together to find a compromise we're both happy with. - OP[/quote]

Of course, people never like to admin when they've been had, it's embarrassing and a real blow to the ego. You've been clear about what you wanted the entire time. She has not been. She thought she could change you on this topic since she was able to get you to marry her.

It does sound like you both settled, she wanted a higher earner than could be found in her podunk hometown so that she could SAH, and you are clearly not in love with her.

Having said that, you do sound a bit rigid.  Have you ever lived outside of your city? I find that many people who claim to love their hometown areas so much are really just change averse.

If you want to make this marriage work, you both need to compromise.

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