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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is another reason women fall behind in the workplace after having kids.  It’s the million things we are expected to do.  Most women want a decent quality of life so many of the things that we do aren’t truly necessary to survive.

Just today I went to the pool with my child and husband.  Here’s what I did to make it to the pool:

1.  Order swim diapers last week
2.  Order a float 
3. Order a swimsuit earlier this year in son’s size 
4.  Order sunscreen 
5.  Put sunscreen on child 
6.  Pack stroller, including water for child 
7.  Decide time to go to the pool (in between naps)
8.  Get myself ready

Here’s what my husband did:

1.  Dress himself 
2.  Ask me where the sunscreen is 
3.  Push the stroller.

I suppose we could have not gone to the pool?  Was it necessary to survive?  No, but it’s things like this that make life nice.  Other examples include vacations, parties, a clean house, nice meals, well dressed kids, kids enjoying activities, pets, etc.

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Millions of your female ancestors are rolling their eyes at your First World Problems. No chopping wood? No hauling water? No dying in childbirth? No having your husband and children killed and being carried off into slavery? And still she complains![/quote]

You’re right that I have first world problems.  Pretty much all of the problems in this country are first world ones.  We have different standards than someone 100 years ago.  Technically the police brutality is WAY better than it was in the 1950s in Alabama.  But does that make it ok?  Should we say, well this is nothing compared to under Jim Crow?  Of course not.

Women are simply continuing to fight for equality and this means sharing household duties, including planning and running the household and kids.  Should we not care about this because we used to not have the right to vote?[/quote]

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