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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Regardless of whether you're a man or a woman, I think the way we tie our identities and sense of self-worth to our employment is the source of a lot of problems in society.

When the robots do everything, the people who own robots are going to be rich, the rest of us are going to be poor, and nobody is going to know where to find their identity. [/quote]

This is a gem in a mess of a thread. In a utopia, robots do the work, everyone gets a stipend, but yes, what will be our identity when we don't work?[/quote]

Totally disagree. Everyone wants to feel like they are making a difference, like they are doing something that has value, that they are using their talents. Some people get that feeling through pride in their home and families, some through their hobbies (like running marathons), some through their work. [/quote]

And here is the problem. OP wants his wife to be satisfied choosing spaghetti over nuggets, while he gets to make real business decisions. Sounds .ike she gets to make real decisions, although at less money.

She lived the Spaghetti/ nuggets battle for years, and now it’s her turn to make rel life decisions. DH (OP) can’t handle it, and now understands he need to be more appreciative of the work DW did, but hey.. it’s too late. He’s now seeing staying home is not the luxury that he thought it was, especially as his wife has a decent job that she loves.

And such is the pickle that OP finds himself in. Sure, he has a grew job, but it came at the expense of DW. She’s already making 6 digits. If she had the time that OP did.. I suspect she’d do as well, or close to it. But OP doesn’t want that, he wants someone to choose the dinner menu and give him more sex.

And this is why women are behind. Our spouses are “happy that we work”,as long as it’s a hobby, and we plan dinner, watch the children, and give them more sex. [/quote]

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