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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am one of them. Think nothing of it. Wonder a little about the women who change their names, though.[/quote]

Easy there.  You do you, I'll do me.  Ok?

I changed my name.  [b]I knew my kids would get my DH's last name,[/b]  and I wanted to share a last name with them. So I changed my name.  Not a big deal to me.

My sister did not change her name.  My SIL (brother's wife) did not change her name.  I completely support their decisions and don't think they are any less committed to their husbands because of it.  But neither of them share a last name with their children, which was important to me.  They both had better/more established careers with their maiden names, so I think it was trade off that made sense for them.

To each their own.  The best part about living now is being able to CHOOSE.  [/quote]

Not the PP, but another woman who kept her name.

I think the bolded part is what many of us have a problem with. Why did you know that your kids would get your DH's last name? I was the opposite. I knew that our kids would get MY name, whatever I decided that to be.

If DH wanted to change his name to have the same name as our children, that would have been fine with me. He decided not to do so, which was also fine.

Not sure why or how women grow and deliver babies, generally do by far the lion's share of child rearing (statistically speaking), and yet say things like "I knew my kids would get DH's name".[/quote]

I think the [b]traditional agreement is that children are named after the husband/father in "exchange" for his support raising the children and supporting the wife/family.[/b] One certain way to have no debate about children's names is to have them outside of wedlock.

The same thing could be said about a wife taking the husband's name. There is always the option to not get married and just be boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever else.[/quote]

...and because the wife became his property upon marrying and no longer had her own property rights, right to enter into legal contracts, her own money.  The list goes on.

As of 2016, about 70% of mothers work outside the home.  So the "I'll support you in exchange for you becoming my chattel" no longer applies.

There is always the option to get married and retain the names that each party has had since birth, and to be equal contributors to the family in all respects.  It is not rocket science.[/quote]

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