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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I'm one of the men who isn't happy about my wife not taking my name[/b] but I married her despite her plan to keep her name

We are a happy couple despite our disagreement on this issue

[b]Does that make me a misogynist?[/b]

A lot of the meaner/snarkier comments from men are responding to women telling them (us) we are insecure, man children, whiny boys, bitches, pathetic etc[/quote]

No, but it does mean you should check your thinking about men, women, and patriarchy.[/quote]

Was going to write this.  You may not be a "misogynist" technically.  But having negative feelings towards your wife about her refusal to do something that you would not do, in each case because of longstanding gender norms,..... well, it certainly doesn't make you a good guy.  [/quote]I can see feeling hurt about it.  I guess my question is whether this pp feels resentment as if it were his right to demand it.  Not clear that he does.  I think it's what you do with those feelings that matter, not whether it bothers you.  ~another woman who kept her own name[/quote]

In my dating years, I used keeping my last name as a screener. One pastor's son said it was a deal breaker because it symbolized union. I responded that staying married symbolized union more. He also probably added something about head of household and submission. And he had a name of that ended with IV and required his first born son the be a V. :/  We are still friends. I have been married to a more laid back dude for over a decade/[/quote]

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