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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder if your son started to tear up because he was worried about your reaction.  I love my mom, but reacting appropriately was not her strong suit.  I could totally see her crying and going on and on about loss of my innocence. Which would make me super uncomfortable to ever talk to her about anything sexual.   Your kid is entering the years where he needs to feel safe and comfortable coming to you about things.  And if your reactions are going to do the opposite, you really need to figure out how to change it. [/quote]

Excellent observation and I think you are spot on. Rather than being scared of the image, he was scared of how his mom would react and given OP's replies that is understandable. I can see her son thinking he is now bad for having looked at or looked up the image intentionally or otherwise and now wonders if mom thinks he is bad and unforgivable for making this mistake and getting caught.[/quote]

Uh, no responsible parent is going to let their 11 year old surf for porn and, yes, there would absolutely be consequences if a kid was caught doing that.  However, the Op's kid pulled up the image on his mom's computer with his mother right there cooking dinner.  His brother asked if the packet of slivered almonds was a package of mints.....the kid googled MINTS TS and that link came up.

I believe Op when she says that this all happened really fast and randomly.  Maybe you don't. There is no way to prove what really did or did not happen.

That was a shocking image, though.  There was nothing about the link, that I recall, to suggest this kind of picture.  [/quote]

Enough with the showing your kids porn strawman. No one here is showing their kids porn or advocating it  what pp rightly pointed out  is the kid's reaction  was i response to how he thought his mother would react.

Looking at OP's replies it's clear she thinks transgendered and gay people are dirty bad and evil, it's clear she thinks sex is dirty bad and evil and ever to be discussed, she has probably  made her opinion clear many times to her child including that porn is dirty bad and evil and that people who look at it are dirty bad and evil. Her son has internalized that message so when he saw the image maybe by mistake he believes he is no dirty, bad and evil   and about to  yelled at by mom.

PP is right about innocence parents and how it can take on a life of it's own and go beyond normal parenting into shaming and making kids feel like awful beings when they make a mistake or have questions.[/quote]

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