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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are 100% right that she can file for divorce. She will have cause to do so because the second he has sex with someone other than her without her agreement, he's CHEATING ON HER.

What the hell is wrong with you people? I never said that it was wonderful for the OP's wife to not have sex as often as he wants. I will point out again that according to him, the marriage isn't sexless. It doesn't have as much sex as he wants and he doesn't enjoy the sex that occurs for whatever reason, but the reality is that that is not what a sexless marriage is. Once a month and boring isn't sexless. It's just unsatisfying. I agree that it would be better if these two married adults would communicate with each other and try to meet each other's needs better than they are currently doing, but that doesn't mean that it's justified for the OP to go have an affair (your "open marriage") because he's not happy with what he's getting at home.

By that definition, anyone who is unhappy with their sex life for any reason could justify adultery by saying that they had declared the marriage open. It does not work that way, and I don't understand why you are so invested in claiming that it does.[/quote]

The problem seems to be you don't understand the full gravity of 1 partner unilaterally declaring a marriage sexless. That is EXACTLY the same thing as the other partner unilaterally deciding to seek sex elsewhere. There is absolutely zero difference, and it is no less justified for him to declare the marriage Open as for her to declare it Sexless. I agree, neither is being a good partner, and I have no idea why she wants to stay married to a man she doesn't want sex with. I don't understand why you are so invested in allowing only 1 spouse to make unilateral decisions about sex in the marriage. That is not a defensible position at all.[/quote]

NP but you keep calling this marriage sexless when it is not, by OP's own description.  Also I've been involved in an open marriage (as an outside partner) and you have no idea what you're talking about with your "I Declare This Marriage Open" nonsense.  That's some fever dream you had one time, it's nothing to do with the reality of actual relationships.[/quote]

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