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[quote=Anonymous]I skipped ahead of a lot of the responses, so sorry if I'm missing something, but I'll give you my 2 cents from a different (but also very intense) profession.  Employers will (generally) look at hiring you as a long term investment.  So the fact that you are going to take 12 weeks of maternity leave a few months after being hired is not a big deal, overall.  On the other hand, it is a lot easier to get hired (at least in my field (law)), when you follow the normal recruitment flow--by which I mean, you get a job after school.  So, trying to time leave after school could work, but if you plan to take more than 12 weeks off, it may be hard to find an employer who is looking to hire outside the normal time frame.  (I think a lot of employers would be delay a start date by a few months for the right candidate though).  One thing I was suprised by is that, at least in big law, if you have back to back pregnancies (which I count as 2 kids in 2 years or so), the odds of people taking you seriously seems to dip.  NOT ALWAYS!  But people get used to you in wind up or wind down mode, or in pumping all the time or tired from sleep training so maybe not in killing it at work mode.  So having 3 kids in 4 years--aside from whether or not it ends up being possible for you--may affect the way your employer perceives you.  Just something to consider, not something that should sway your work/family choices.

I thought my classmates who had kids in law school were crazy, but actually I see how smart they were in hindsight.  (Though I do like my maternity leave to be paid, so tradeoffs).

Ultimately, I think you need to weigh how badly you want to have 2-3 kids v. how badly you want to start your program now (as opposed to in, say, a few years).  Imagine yourself in 20 years, looking back, if things don't go perfectly, which scenario would you prefer?[/quote]

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