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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I refuse to spank our DD. My father spanked me from before the time I even understood what was happening. I used to hide under the bed whenever he came home from work because I associated him with hitting me.

I think parents who spank their children are too lazy to really discipline their kids. It's a heck of a lot easier to just smack your child to get them to shut up or do something you want rather than to figure out what's causing a particular behavior.[/quote]

This assumes that all parents who spank are drooling cretins who don't do anything but spank. It's possible to have loving, involved, engaged parents who use spanking as one form of punishment. Thousands of generations of children who grow up to be productive citizens with good relationships with their parents attest to this.

This discussion is always so silly. I'm not super pro-spanking but to immediately equate it with violence, violent parents, violent kids is just dumb. Talk to 90 percent of people whose parents used moderate spanking and they have no issue with it, violence in their lives etc. Do people just dismiss that which doesn't suit their world view?[/quote]

+1.  We are well-educated in areas related to child development (MD and PhD) and like to think we're good parents, and spanking is within our repertoire and it's not in common in our ethnic group.  While we reserve the right to spank for certain things, we find that we do it only very occasionally--maybe once every few months--and it's becoming less frequent over time.  We also use positive reinforcement like star charts, praise for effort, are well-versed in growth mindset, etc. It's a faulty assumption to presume that parents to spank rely on it exclusively.[/quote]

When you say that you spank, how do you actually carry that out? Is it the in-the-moment kind?  I'm not judging, I'm just wondering what those who are obviously intelligent and whole reasoned views about this topic think and do.

Others feel free to answer as well. [/quote]

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