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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Kids want to feel loved, it is that simple. [/b]Think about how many wives are posting(yes, it is almost always women posting here) about DH working too much, spending too much with ILS, never being there for them, and a 12 year old is supposed to be all rational and understand that mom can't spend some time with her, when many grown ups feel resentful in the same situation? And yes, 12 year old will be disorganized and forget to pan a week ahead, that is how most teens are. OP, your DD wants you, she wants to spend time with you, and all the rest is just her lashing out in the only way she knows.[/quote]

Sometimes I think that most people on this board do not remember what it was like to be a child. When I was a tween, feeling loved wasn't my main concern.  I knew I was loved, but I didn't much care. I had all sorts of miserable tangled emotions running through me as a result of the hormonal shifts of puberty, and my mom made a very convenient outlet / focus / punching bag for all of my angst. She was a wonderful mother – it did not make a wet of a difference to me. I was in raged – and I knew I could reach at her because she was one of the only people in the world who had to put up with me – and nothing she could've changed would have me be less angry at her.

OP,  if you feel like you're not giving your children enough time with you, that is one thing. But I'm not convinced from the small amount of information that you've given us that you are necessarily doing anything so wrong as to account for your child's anger at you.  Some of us were just angry kids. On the bright side, for all that I gave my mother hell, I voluntarily spend as much time as possible with her nowadays, because she is awesome. [/quote]

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