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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.[/quote]

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms.  You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single.  I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym. [/quote]

Amen!! [/quote]

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...[/quote]

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses. [/quote]

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?[/quote]

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, [b]we get out of the office at the time that is necessary[/b]. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping.  Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

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Not everyone on DCUM works an eight hour office job. I have friends who do shift work and their weekly schedule changes frequently. I have another friend with two children with SN and a husband who has to work OT at will. She can't just [i]insist [/i]on 8 pm yoga or 7 am Zumba.[/quote]

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