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[quote=Anonymous]Partial HIPPO.  I'm guessing that OP has had some rough times financially.  She says she has a nice life, but isn't so well-off that she can spend however she likes, i.e., her comment that she can't vacation because money has to go to college fund.  Plus, she's the primary breadwinner in a country where the husbands typically are, perhaps the sentiment is even stronger from her home country.  I think deep down, she feels that "life's not fair," and in that mindset, it's easy to be resentful of the siblings who got to pocket an extra $50K in free tuition.  That $50K she worked her a** off to repay (and not even for herself, but her DH, in a gender role reversal) would go a long way, I'm sure, to paying down the mortgage, padding the college fund or what not.  I don't excuse her anger, which has lasted way too long and as to the siblings, misplaced, but I do find it understandable.  I have two brothers, we are close in age and graduated from school and started working around the same time, yet I was much more successful in school and got a much higher-paying job.  They both have received help as adults from my parents well into the six figures while I haven't gotten a dime.  Repayment of student loans, help towards a down payment, "allowance" even.  There was a brief period when I lost my job in the financial crisis and was struggling financially and I did resent my brothers and my parents for the help I never received as at the time, I felt acutely how much it would have helped.  Having said that, the resentment left once I was back on my feet again and financially comfortable.  Again, not saying that the resentment is "right," but it's not an uncommon feeling.[/quote]

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