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[b]His family has never shown me affection[/b] (for example, they told my husband on our first anniversary to tell me that they don't celebrate anniversaries). Our interactions always felt like an imposition.[/quote]

They don't???  Shocking.

Just for personal reference, but why would anyone WANT to show affection towards a bitter, judgemental, sanctimonious, ice queen, who has a 10 foot wall of resentful, grudge filled baggage around her?

Boy, she sounds like a party...

I'm sure your overall vibe & body language towards them is inherently warm, inviting & NON stand off-ish, so it's anyone's guess as to why they've never shown you affection?

Uh, have you ever tried hugging a cactus, OP?  
It's not recommended.

I imagine the same can be said of you.[/quote]
 
It's absolutely mind boggling that the OP makes statements as ridiculous as "his family has never shown me affection", yet she's completely clueless as to why that would be.

She's so stand off-ish & bitter... is that someone who's easily approachable?  I wouldn't even want to say hi, let alone show her affection.

And I agree with the pp, the OP only sees things from HER perspective (she's has textbook only child syndrome).
The OP complains that they've never been affectionate towards her... has she been affectionate towards them?
Does she give off the vibe that she wants affection from these people?  They're not mind readers you know... if you consistently behave in a manner that's off putting & stand off-ish to them, why would you expect affection?

That just seems like such a weird thing to say.

Here she is going on & on for 11 pages saying how bitter, resentful & angry she's been for the past 15 years & yet, she wonders why they haven't been affectionate towards her?

How can she possibly be that clueless?

They may not be mind readers, but they can surely read her body language & I 100% agree with the hugging a cactus reference to giving her & her gigantic wall of bitterness & resentment built around her.[/quote]

Well, it didn't start out that way. I am actually a very affectionate person. But [b]getting? enough things thrown in your face will make an ice queen of just about anyone[/b] m[/quote]

Wait... did I miss something??

I thought this SINGULAR incident occurred with your in-laws over 15 years ago & it hasn't been brought up since?

If that is indeed the case, who exactly has been throwing this SINGULAR incident up in your face for the past 15 years?  Is it...

your alter ego?
your evil twin?
your doppelganger?
Tyler Durden??

Who? Who besides you has been not only hanging onto this nonsense for the past 15 years, but also has been throwing it up in your face?

This has to be one of THE most self degradating, self induced, self harmful, compulsive & maladjusted neurosis I've ever heard of.

You've been so wrapped up in this neurasthenian obsession, it's not only become your identity, its now a compulsion for you.

OP, you need to research "Paranoid personality disorder" (I'm not saying that as a joke or to be hurtful).
While you may not have been born with PPD, you definitely seem to have the genetic marker for it & this situation is textbook PPD.[/quote]

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