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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I continue to be inordinately enraged by people who keep characterizing Dawn's actions as "narcissistic" or claiming that anyone who "brags" about their kidney donation like Dawn did is a narcissist. I just... fundamentally do not even comprehend that line of thinking.[/quote]

When you read the article as written she can come off that way especially to people who have one in their lives. Narcissists use public forums and public deeds to cover up how nasty and manipulative they are in private - they have to cover up their shame from both themselves and to hide it from others - and that public promotion is sometimes over the top. And they lack boundaries. Without having the context (that the NYT lacked) of the correct timeline of how it played out, or that she was following donor protocol in setting up the group, it is easy to read into her actions that way. The story was very misleading.

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Yes, this! I am the immediate PP who has the acquaintance who was privately terrible to me but then did a very public bone marrow donation that she posted constantly about on Facebook. So I was very primed to dislike Dawn in the NYT piece because it paralleled my own experience.

However, I also felt conflicted and confused upon my first reading. There’s just never any explanation of Dawn’s supposed narcissism beyond her posts about her donation. If all is experienced with this acquaintance was her bone marrow posts, I’d have zero bad feelings about her. The whole reason I found it annoying was that I’d had these very negative experience with her where she’d done some very hurtful, selfish things. So it absolutely felt like she was getting cover for being an ahole.

And then when I found out these posts were mostly in the private group, I lost my sympathy for Larson. I unfriended my acquaintance not long after all this because I could feel myself being annoyed and frustrated and just needed distance from this person. The idea of joining a private group, getting mad at the posts, and then staying in the group so I could mock them with my friends is so foreign to me. It makes me icky thinking about it.

Honestly, it’s the kind of thing sn actual narcissist might do.[/quote]

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