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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The people saying you’re overreacting are wrong.

However, I don’t think you should go no contact. Simply RSVP no and buy something cheap from the registry as a gift.

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Go no contact?!?!?  With a nephew?  Just because a couple prefers an adult-only wedding?!?  That is absolutely bonkers!

(And I like kids at weddings…but why is someone taking it personally when it is a blanket decision, not specifically excluding her child and her child only?!) [/quote]

Totally agree.  Op, I think you’re overreacting. Weddings are super stressful compromise events with a lot going on.  If you can’t go, send sincere regrets.  But it’s worth asking the local family if there is a trusted baby sitter for your son.  He will enjoy seeing the rest of the family at the other events.  We did this in 2021 with my kids and their cousins wedding (my kids are the youngest in a large cousin cohort).  Because your son is so much younger, he’s never going to be on the same page as his cousins.  But that could be a good thing.  Imagine he goes to Rice and how nice it will be for him to have adult cousins where he can go for Thanksgiving meal if he can’t get home for break.  Or his first job in Chicago and maybe he needs to crash with one of his grown up cousins in their guest room until he can find a place.  Or a national emergency shuts down air travel and you can’t pick him up from college, but one of his older cousins can drive to get him so he’s not alone.  We’ve had all of this happen in my family.   My daughter in college is 19 years younger than her cousin that lives 15 minutes away from her college, and he has made clear she always has a bed and meal there if she needs it.  I think you just need to reframe your expectations for how your son can be “close” to his cousins.  It’s gojng yo look different due to the age gap but it can still be very nice! [/quote]

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