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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't currently, nor does my husband with me. But if that was his reaction? I'd be going through is phone TODAY. That response is suspicious AF. [/quote]

Op here. I did, didn’t find anything. [/quote]

So now what? 
Tell us how your marriage is otherwise then …

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I mean, I guess he could have a burner phone but then why would he not want to share his location on the “clean” one? 🤔

As to how I was able to go through his phone, we share the same passcode. That’s why I thought nothing about this location sharing request! We’ve never had trust issues before. In my mind, it was to make logistics easier and simpler and not some huge ask or philosophical thing about trust and surveillance.

Our marriage in general is pretty good. We hardly ever fight, still have frequent sex l, still say I love you several times a day, etc. I think the reason why I’m feeling so upset about this is because we hardly ever fight and so I’m not used to this unsettled feeling.

At the end of the fight, I was still being pretty frosty and he wanted us to agree that it was a difference in perspective leading to misunderstanding and miscommunication.[b] We use location sharing with our kids differently - I use it for logistics, he does use it to check up on them and make sure they are where they said there are. So that’s why he felt insulted when I asked. He thought I was implying that we think he is untrustworthy and up to shady stuff[/b].[/quote]
[b]It’s interesting that he dislikes the “surveillance state” but is using the technology to surveil your kids because he apparently doesn’t trust them.[/b]  His reaction is understandable given this context, but it sure doesn’t speak highly of his character, unless he has some reason for thinking the kids may be lying or doing bad things. I think the vast majority of us use the location settings for logistical or safety purposes.

I’m really surprised to learn that people don’t use the technology with their kids.  I only check if they aren’t home when I expect them or, when they are new drivers driving at night or for long distances, whether they have reached their destinations.  
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These people are always just projecting. "I don't want you tracking me, because I know how I'd track you and I wouldn't that done to me". [/quote]

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