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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife is a sahm because it makes the most sense for us financially and it's what she genuinely prefers. But sometimes women in our family make weird comments about it by saying things like "but don't you want to do something?". These women happen to be very progressive and feminist. Anyone else deal w/ this?[/quote]

Raising a family is doing something and it's difficult.  And you can be very progressive and feminist and understand that.  It's not required of a parent, but it's a completely legitimate decision.[/quote]

Shut your family down and don't let it be discussed, beyond "we are happy and it is what works for us".  I'm a highly educated (2 BS, 1 MS, 7 years work experience post education) who has been a SAHP for 25+ years.  Don't regret a moment of it.  Doesn't make me any less of a person.  If anything, it takes a lot of strength to give up the salary and power of a great job to take care of your family.  It allowed my spouse to do more with their career, without worries of childcare or the Homefront.  In return we were over $10M NW by age 38, and UHNW by 48.  [/quote]

You were still mothering and babysitting your kids when they were 25?  Were you one of these SAHM who was always SO overwhelmed even though your kids were in school all day? [/quote]

No, I just never returned to the "paid workforce" once the kids went to college. Spouse retired during youngest kid's junior year of college.  During the first 2 years, I managed a gutting/renovate of one home(took 9 months), the move and then sale of original home and purchase of new "2nd home", then managed the full gutting/renovation of that home.   I have plenty to do, it doesn't revolve around "managing the kids", I just don't have to add stress to our family household by having a 9-5 paid job (of which 50% would go to taxes immediately)    Instead, I got to travel when spouse travelled, so we attached vacations to their work trips.  And as the spouse of a CEO, I also plan/host events at our homes every 2 weeks typically (before retirement).  Don't outsource any of that, so a 10 person dinner event is a full 1-2 days of planning/prepping

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I've never heard a longer explanation of make work in my life[/quote]

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