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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Obviously, the people who are excusing these parents have done or would do the exact same thing - go out to a bar to drink while their toddler/baby is alone asleep in the hotel room, as if children don't wake up while sleeping.[/quote]
+1 You know who used to do this sh!t with their kid? The parents of the Oxford, Michigan school shooter. I drink and I am the opposite of a hyper anxious parent and you people defending this or saying it’s fine because nothing bad happened or equating it to something like walking into your front yard with your dog are ridiculous. This is trashy behavior in addition to rightly being illegal. Telling these parents that this is negligent and abusive will hopefully have the effect of them not doing it again.[/quote]

Was this a hotel bar in a different building?

We were at a higher end resort with our 1 year old once.  We strollered him to the tiki bar with us.  He was asleep and it was like 7pm.  There were parents there watching their kids via monitors.  It’s not something I would do mainly because our child is a terrible sleeper and would be likely to wake up and panic if we weren’t there.  But it didn’t seem incredibly negligent if your kid sleeps well.  I thought about this a lot because of the contrast between us with our child sleeping in the bassinet and the other parents with their kids back in the room.

What about different floors in hotels?  Same hallway?  Hotel restaurant?

We’ve never done any of that before, but I could be convinced that insisting on being within 10 seconds is overkill.  Not sure where the line is - but it seems like a lot of posters find the idea of being on the other side of a large house to be negligent  (conceivably a large 1 story house could be 150-200ft from end to end).[/quote]
It’s a different building entirely separate from the hotel, about 500 feet away. There’s no mention of a monitor in the article.[/quote]

If there was no monitor, I think they weren’t punished enough.  That’s insane behavior and incredibly poor judgment.[/quote]

How does a monitor help in this situation?

Let’s say you hear the child moving, you look at the monitor and see him opening the door to the hall.  You’re 5 minutes away, maybe 6 or 7 depending on how long the elevator takes.  Is that close enough?

Or if you hear someone come into the room.  Is 5-7 minutes a good amount of time?[/quote]

If I saw a 1 year old get out of a crib, get over and open the door, and walk out - I’d be so gobsmacked I don’t think I’d regain consciousness in 5-7 minutes.

But the reason a monitor helps reduce the punishment is because the child wasn’t actually abandoned.  I don’t think it’s the best move but the parents were at least aware they had a responsibility.

Without a monitor, they might as well have left the child in the changing room of Target. [/quote]

Why would you be gobsmacked by a 1 year old who can get out of a pack and play or who can open an accessible door.  Most 1 year olds can do both those things.  They are not uncommon.[/quote]

You must have the usual DCUM success story… but most kids aren’t opening doors and climbing out of pack and plays at 12 months old. And if the kid can get out of the pack and play, a sleep sack will stop that.  Or can they unzip that too?[/quote]

My kid was climbing out of her pack and play st 21 months.[/quote]

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