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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I met when we were in grad school. We were both ambitious and had demanding careers when we got married. We earned roughly the same when we had kids and over the years, I mommy tracked, moved to part time consulting and eventually became a SAHM of our three kids. DH’s career has soared and our kids are all thriving doing well in school, happy and social.

I recently didn’t go to my college reunion. It wasn’t a convenient time but more than anything, I think I’m embarrassed that I no longer work. DH is top of his field and earns a few million dollars per year. We live in a beautiful home in a highly desired area, have multiple vacation homes, etc. We live better and have more money than the majority of my old college friends. DH thinks I should be proud of my accomplishments because DH’s success is my success. I’m not sure how I feel about that.

Do you think your spouse and children’s success if your success?[/quote]

Our CFO said the same thing at a board dinner once.

What was the secret to your success. And he said, My wife. [/quote]

Often that’s true because sometimes the Wife’s father got them the job[/quote]

No, he came through a competitor headhunter process years ago. 
He meant his wife handling everything was so supportive to him and his career he was able to be very focused and successful at this career and job. [/quote]

I would find it very gross to hear this comment at a business dinner. It feels very 1950s like a woman's role is to stay home and take care of everything so her DH can succeed. [/quote]

Agreed. The comment was gross. Even more so because he's a CFO. He's not saving our country, curing cancer, etc. Being a successful CFO is fine, I'm a tax attorney so I know a ton of them, but I find it weird to act like having a stay at home wife is what enabled his greatness. He's a glorified CPA, which is a fine job, but come on. It just means his wife stays home so he can spend a ton of time working and making money. Which is pretty pathetic. [/quote]

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