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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am on page 68 now. Taking notes as I go:

Larson/Ng dynamic devolved because of groupthink - sounds like they started out gossiping about her look-at-me drama and then the book, but then when Dawn started pursuing Sonya legally and/or trying to cancel her, it got meaner with Ng being the mean girl ring leader.

However, [b]there has to be some more backstory we aren't getting about why Dawn made them so spiteful in the first place[/b]. The code switching discussion is actually really interesting and I can see that as a reason for Dawn not able to fit in. However, everyone is assuming that none of the Chunky Monkeys or Grub Street people had similar outcast-type or poor backgrounds. They could possibly have had similar backgrounds with similar trauma but they don’t feel the need to bring it up like she does as excuse for everything that has happened in her adult life, or make it the defining issue as she does.

I think the blue check marks confused the FICTIONAL account of Rose with the person of Dawn when they went down the white woman savior path during the twitter pile-on.

NYT looks bad. It was poor reporting.

Nobody looks good here accept the few people who have dispassionately put things in a timeline order. [/quote]

Regarding the bolded:

1) You’d think so! And yet no one articulates it, ever. I kept waiting for this too, but it never shows up. But more importantly,

2) It doesn’t actually matter. If someone has a grating personality at your job, or in a professional/social circle you are in, you can avoid them, stay polite but distant when you see them, shrug and say “Oh I don’t know her that well” when their name comes up. If you really hate them and it is necessary in order to avoid, say, being stuck on the same assignment or rooming with them at a conference, you discretely tell whoever you need to that you don’t mesh well with this person, and request a transfer or whatever.

You don’t spend years trashing them to colleagues and mutual friends, while pretending to their face that you still like them. You don’t ignore them en masse at a professional conference they paid to attend. And you definitely don’t steal a private post from their social media and base a racist, unlikable, two-dimensional character off them in a story you plan to submit to multiple publications and a high profile citywide festival.

Yes, some people are annoying. But unless Dorland actually DID something to these people, their response (and I’m talking about all the stuff that happened before Dorland did a single thing that could actually be considered problematic) is unprofessional, bullying, unethical, and just plain mean.

You don’t have to like everyone. But you do have to treat them with a baseline level of respect. And if you don’t, my feeling is you get what’s coming to you.[/quote]

100%. And I'm not seeing ANY evidence that Dawn was actually that annoying to begin with. It all feels a lot like people just projecting. I would rather take an aloof, do-gooder, overly "sunny" person over a duplicitous, fake, back-stabbing friend any day of the week.[/quote]

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