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[quote=Anonymous]Reading this thread and have to weigh in.

I agree with the pp that trusts a Coach initially.  My God, what a shitty existence to assume everyone sucks and has nefarious motives.

That said, I pay attention.

My parents Coached and I have heard the countless 'parent' stories growing up.  We also have refs in the family.  The family has been in the sport around here since the 70s--much like the other poster.

We have certainly seen our share of a-holes.  We have certainly had god-awful coaches, horrible Clubs, been screwed over/passed up by a Coach's kid or a spawn of a kiss-ass, etc.

But, we do our homework and research.  We often have also managed to have really great Coaches that support our kids--even when we couldn't stand the Club.  We keep them in our Circle until this day.

Yes. I don't interfere with Coaches. If we don't see eye-to-eye and I seriously question their ability or the kids they seem to favor---no amount of me going to bitch to a TD or to the Coach personally are going to change that fact.  In fact, it's more likely to cause harm than good. So--we start looking around and make our move the following year.

A good barometer for me is seeing which players the Coaches favor and how they place them.  That, right there, tells me all I need to know about their knowledge.  I've been at some Clubs where some of the best players are on lower teams.  Of course, I am defining best by kids that really have knowledge of the game--smart players, quietly set the plays and make the assists over the physical kids.

If I bring my kids to a Club, I've already done a ton of research.  I've watched practices and games and the Coaches in action.  So--when my kids show up I sit back and let things happen.  That doesn't mean I'm clueless or don't understand the system.  Trust me, I was around when most of these leagues started and know a lot of the Board members.  But, I let the Coaches do their job and I don't undermine them in front of my kids.   I don't bad-mouth their teammates.

I am doing my kids a great disservice if I don't teach them how to be able to interact and handle problems with a Coach ON THEIR OWN.  I don't know where some of you played sports that you think it's normal for Mommy and Daddy to run up and cry every time there is an injustice.  In fact, those perceived 'injustices' and making my kid go through them and DO SOMETHING have made them much better players in the long run because they have something to prove.  They want to get better and show how wrong somebody's assessment was.

Every great athlete had setbacks.  They all didn't always get what they wanted.  They all suffered adversity in some manner.  It's what they did about it that made the difference.  IF you read sports' biographies, it wasn't Mommy and Daddy coming in and raising hell that made that difference.  [/quote]

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